Are Your Children Prepared For “IF”?

Are Your Children Prepared For “IF”?

I have taught my children so many things to prepare them for life. Don’t talk to strangers. Don’t touch the hot stove. Don’t play near the street. I also taught them how to call 911. I recited their home phone number and home address until it was permanently seared in their brains.


I have laid out several scenarios and told my children what to do in the event “if” happens. If the house catches on fire . . . If we are in a car accident . . . If you ever get lost . . .


Why have I taught my children these things?

I have taught my children these things because I am not always with them to protect them. They have to go to school. They spend the night with friends. They go on field trips. They live life and I’m not always glued to their side.

But what if I die?

In the last two years, two mothers I know have died. Both were unexpected deaths. Both were under the age of 35. Both deaths were traumatic and left children unprepared for this life experience.

I look at these children and put myself in their mother’s place. How would my children cope if I died?

I realize that nobody wants to discuss this “if” scenario. The truth is that we are all going to die. A lot of us are going to die unexpectedly and even tragically.

Of course, if I die, I won’t physically be able to comfort my children and help them through that difficult time.

However, death can’t prevent me from being a mother.

In the wake of these deaths, I have decided to discuss this “if” with my children. I have also decided to write letters to my children and maybe make some videos of myself. I can still comfort them even if I’m not here.

I want my children to have something tangible to hold and comfort them. Memories are wonderful but they do fade.

I want my children to know that I also prepared them for this life experience, death.

Author: Gabriella Parker

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