No, Virginia, There Isn’t a Santa Claus

No, Virginia, There Isn’t a Santa Claus

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Original article in The New York Sun from Wikipedia

Little white lie, fib, half truth, untruth, falsehood, exaggeration … whatever you like to call it, telling children that Santa is delivering presents for Christmas is a lie. Gasp! Yes, I said it.

If someone were to say that God or Jesus did not exist, no one would bat an eyelid. On the other hand, if someone were to even remotely express the mere possibility of not believing in Santa Claus or his existence, they would be ready to swoop in and whisk you off like the KGB in the former communist Russia.

We don’t live in a communist country so EVERYONE is free to believe whatever they like, which includes not believing in Santa.

As part of living in a free society, not only do we have the freedom of beliefs, but we also have the responsibility to be considerate of another’s feelings. The right of individual beliefs is not a license to impose them on other people.

My family does not share in the “tradition” of Santa Claus as part of our Christmas celebration. This can be very problematic considering my children are elementary age. I have taken great care and consideration to protect the beliefs of other children who do choose to believe. The same consideration is not given to my unbelieving children. My children do not go around spouting the fact that they do not believe in Santa. However, children and adults alike should be careful what questions they ask. My children go to great lengths to avoid the question because I have taught them to be considerate of other children’s feelings. However, if one insists on asking my children that question, they will be truthful and a child may get their feelings hurt.

Some parents also believe that hitting a child and calling it “spanking” to justify the means, is wrong. The same should apply to lying. It is just my opinion; but I chose not to teach my children about Santa, Easter Bunny, Toothfairy, etc.  I felt that I could not teach the lesson of honesty if I was a liar.  I don’t believe in a “good” lie or “acceptable” lie.

Consequently, if a parent chooses to lie about Santa Claus, it should be with the understanding that not all share that belief and one day the truth will come to light. Don’t be angry if your child comes home upset because my child told their truth about Santa.

Author: ParentingMaven

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