Set Your Goals For The New Year, Not Resolutions

Every New Year, I hear people talking about their New Year’s resolutions that they have set. Then a couple of weeks into the New Year they have already broken their resolution. More than likely these resolutions were well intentioned even though they did only last a couple of weeks.

Some of the more popular New Year’s Resolutions are: lose weight, quit smoking now, save money, reduce stress at work or reduce stress overall, get in shape or get fit, exercise daily or exercise on a regular basis, manage your debt such as your credit card debt, drink less alcohol, or eat right by eating healthier foods. Most of these resolutions involve correcting a problem or a negative in your life. Also, most of these resolutions will probably be hard to accomplish. They are too general and don’t have a specific time element involved. These are resolutions that you will probably fail to keep.

Instead of setting your 2009 New Year’s Resolutions, I recommend that you set goals for the New Year. What is the difference between resolutions and goals. Goals are written down.

Choose goals that are in line with your values. Are these goals really you? How will these goals affect your life?

To set your 2009 goals for the New Year, let’s look at some of the areas of your life such as: faith, family, friends, health and fitness, finances, and giving and volunteering. Choose achievable goals from each area.

Get a pencil and some paper. Begin writing down your goals. Read them. Are they achievable? Rewrite your goals. Make them fit you and your lifestyle. Are they in line with your values? What will these goals do for your life? Are your goals written in a positive way?

Write details about each goal that you are considering. Write step-by-step instructions on how you will accomplish each goal. The goals may be weekly goals or monthly goals.

Don’t be too general in setting your goals. Instead of saying that you will lose weight next year, say that your will loose four pounds each month. Don’t choose goals that will be too difficult to accomplish such as saying that you will lose 40 pounds next year. You will probably fail to reach that goal.

Carry your written goals with you. Read them each night. At the end of each month, evaluate whether you are accomplishing your goals. If needed, then revise any of the goals that you are not quite accomplishing. This way you are not failing to reach your goals, but you are actually setting goals that are better suited to you.

Now that you are beginning to get your goals set for the new year, then help your family plan their new year’s goals. With everyone in the family having their goals written down, then everyone can help each of the other family members to reach their 2009 New Year’s Goals.

Make sure the children have some goals that can easily be accomplished so that they will be successful in reaching their new year’s goals. This might not be a bad idea for the parents also.

Get your family working on your 2009 New Year’s Goals now, instead of your New year’s resolutions. You will feel better about yourself after you have successfully completed some of your 2009 New Year’s Goals and assisted other family members in reaching their goals.

Author: ParentingUncle

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